Alone Again

How to Make Your Ex Return to You

By: Gillian Grannum

You’re at that point in your partnership you never thought would happen. You feel really sad because you’re losing the most important partnership you’ve ever had and you don’t want that to happen. You’re desperately seeking an answer that provides you with positive input and advice re getting back with your loved one. Is that remotely possible, you wonder? Of course it’s possible! Here are a few suggestions on getting back with your Ex and enjoying greater happiness than before.

RECLAIM CONTROL OF YOUR EMOTIONS

One good way is to put some added effort into making yourself more desirable. Under no circumstance should you push yourself on him or her in the immediate future. It’s far better to attend to yourself. This is, without question, easier said than done. It’s entirely understandable if your mind is flooded constantly with thoughts about this individual. Every time you recognize your mind is pulling you into an unending loop about this individual smile at yourself and say gently, “I’d much rather remember this really fun thing right now.”
At first it will seem incredibly hard to pull your mind in a different direction. But if you really focus on anything but your Ex after a while you’ll find yourself thinking less about your Ex and becoming calmer and more thoughtfully aware about what’s going on within. You will no longer be thinking incessantly about this individual.

As you let yourself calm down and refocus attention on yourself don’t be too surprised to discover you really are a truly loving and worthy individual. You may realize your Ex has, in fact, lost far more than you and will continue experiencing lack as long as the separation persists.

REMIND YOURSELF OF HOW MUCH FUN YOU ARE

It’s time you revisited your power. Starting right now, decide to focus your energies productively on yourself — go to the gym, work on your mindset, refresh your appearance, exercise and eat healthy, nutritious meals. Do whatever it takes to get your mind off your Ex and back on you.
If you use the time apart positively you’ll stop wondering how to make your Ex want you back. You may even start deciding whether this new you really deserves the old Ex in your life again. Perhaps this new you deserves a fresh start – in more ways than starting over with your Ex. You’ll be amazed at how rapidly your Ex shows up the moment you start entertaining these possibilities sincerely.

With your sparkling new attitude in place the you that answers the doorbell when the time comes will truly wow him or her when you agree it’s time to meet again.

START LIKING YOURSELF – A LOT!

Appreciate the person you are and become more of each day. This way you’ll cease worrying about seeming too eager to get back with this individual. In fact, the more you honor yourself the more likely it is you decide to take an entirely different approach. It begins to make far more sense to you to have him or her come after you instead of you running after him or her. Instead of pursuing you decide to make him or her start wondering about you and if you’ll have him or her back! Once that process begins he or she will conclude maybe leaving wasn’t such a good idea after all. All of a sudden he or she wonders what on earth were they thinking and start longing for and pursuing you again.

DON’T GET TOO CARRIED AWAY AND YOU’LL BE FINE

It doesn’t hurt to do a bit of flirting when you’re sure he or she is aware of what’s going on. Don’t take this too far, however. It goes without saying that it’s wrong to hurt someone who may have real feelings for you by using them to get someone else’s attention. Let good judgment guide you. Allow yourself to experience pleasure when you spend time with someone else, even if that person doesn’t hold a candle to your Ex in your heart. The fact that they’re your friend and willing to be with you should touch and please you. It is in the expression of such care and consideration for others that you draw others to you

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Gillian C. Grannum, Ph.D. is an expert analyst. She writes reviews of relationship guides that provide the help you need. Complete.MakingUpGuideReviewsNow.com